Thursday, July 24, 2014

Thank God for Friends


   So I know this is somewhat random but... I was just chatting with a good friend of mine,  We were talking about life's struggles.  Everyone has something different that challenges them.  I am still working on mine.  I know my family will disagree with me on this but all I know is what I know.  That is how I feel of course,  because no man is an island and regardless it does take a village to raise a child. 

   My village is my family and friends, extended and whatnot.  As I got older I noticed that I should worry less about how I feel and focus on how I project myself to others (they really will disagree cause they want me to "feel" yet they told me to always squish my feelings away). Don't get me wrong I know they did the best with me that they could.  With such a great divide on age who could really expect them to get it right with me, or even be able to hear my screams for help.  I am sweet because I surround myself with people that deserve that of me, I hurt when those closest to me are hurt, I am strong because those that I care for need someone to stand for them.

    Ok now that I am getting to the meat and potatoes of this post.  I have had a hard time learning to love and accept myself.  I always thought I did but that was not really what it was supposed to be.  Yes I said it I put it out there for all of you to read.  It is hard for me to look at myself in the mirror and I mean truly look at myself in the mirror and tell myself that I love myself.  I learned that when I was with my best friend... Him and I were talking about some very delicate subjects and wanted me to do that.  I could not... I am talking to the point that I pulled away and started to cry.

    It is now a focus point on my recovery.  You need to make sure you get a sense of who you are.  I am not saying that it is easy because it is not by any means.  I am thankful for my girlfriends that accept me with all the cracks that are part of me.  You all (an you know who you are) help make me whole.  I need to find the acceptance in who I am.



Monday, July 21, 2014

Love and what can not be controlled

Love is never a feeling you can completely control.  It is especially hard when those feelings are for someone that you can not live without.  How do you deal?  Well just to touch on this we all fall in love at one point or another.  And most of the time we truly do not have any control over it.  I am not talking about having a crush or who the best looking person is that you see.  What I am talking about is someone that you wholeheartedly care about.  Someone you do not see your life going on without.  Well I do understand that feeling.  I gave my heart away a long time ago to someone very special to me.  Not always is that feeling returned.  Love is a game of chance.  I do not regret my feelings at all.  I only hope one day that person realizes it and returns the feelings.  


Make sure you always guard your heart... do not hand it over to someone that might not appreciate or deserve it.  I am not saying that you should shut others out, but just must make sure when you do give your heart away it is for the right reasons and to the person you love not just a moments trifle.  

I know I have not kept up with this blog as I should have... but life happens and I will be better at this.