We all want to be loved, we as humans have the innate need for love and acceptance. Why then is it that knowing that we have the need for this that we hurt others? Why do we have to try to change things that make each and every one of us unique? Why instead of loving and appreciating one another we go and hurt each other? For Years I have been in relationships to where yes I was with someone else but have completely been alone. I have had to learn to become independent and not depend or lean on anyone. Yes it is in all extremities the devil in disguise, why do I think or say this... We as Humans are not supposed to be alone. Yes we do need alone time to regroup and think out things but in all not supposed to be a long term thing... as Humans we are social... we thrive (majority) on human contact.
The positive affirmations from one to another with occasional human touch... A hug, a kiss, a handshake or pat on the back are sometimes cast off as something added... A hug for instance can change someones mood or even help someone get through the day... I know that for me someone that is becoming a good and special part of my life was so kind as to make sure I got a hug one weekend when life was kicking me in the gut!
People do not always open up because of pain that has been inflicted on them and sometimes others do not understand the significance of someone opening up... its sometimes so hard for one to trust that when they do it is an act of moving a mountain in their life but the other person may just not see it that way. People do not always know or understand the other person... No one is immediately going to show you their hand in a poker game, so why would they in life?
I write this blog as not only a form of therapy, or a precursor to my book, but as a way to help others develop themselves and a better understanding of human nature and understanding. In this journey like I mentioned earlier that in several years of relationships I have felt lonelier than if I had of just been single. I do not like that feeling and it has made me so tired to where I wish I did have someone that would just be patient with me and catch me when I fall. Keith Urban has the best song "The Fighter" and "Blue Ain't your color" .... The Fighter is where I am now but Blue ain't your color is where I have been for a long time.
The question is where are you and what do you want/need?
The positive affirmations from one to another with occasional human touch... A hug, a kiss, a handshake or pat on the back are sometimes cast off as something added... A hug for instance can change someones mood or even help someone get through the day... I know that for me someone that is becoming a good and special part of my life was so kind as to make sure I got a hug one weekend when life was kicking me in the gut!
People do not always open up because of pain that has been inflicted on them and sometimes others do not understand the significance of someone opening up... its sometimes so hard for one to trust that when they do it is an act of moving a mountain in their life but the other person may just not see it that way. People do not always know or understand the other person... No one is immediately going to show you their hand in a poker game, so why would they in life?
I write this blog as not only a form of therapy, or a precursor to my book, but as a way to help others develop themselves and a better understanding of human nature and understanding. In this journey like I mentioned earlier that in several years of relationships I have felt lonelier than if I had of just been single. I do not like that feeling and it has made me so tired to where I wish I did have someone that would just be patient with me and catch me when I fall. Keith Urban has the best song "The Fighter" and "Blue Ain't your color" .... The Fighter is where I am now but Blue ain't your color is where I have been for a long time.
The question is where are you and what do you want/need?
